Sometimes I can be stereotypically feminine. I like dresses. I love makeup and long hair. I find men attractive. I can wear high heels and a skirt. I can be passive and soft and spend my life trying to please others.
Sometimes, I can be stereotypically masculine. I sit in a manly way. I find women attractive. I can wear jeans and button-up shirts. I can be competitive and harsh and I spend my life outside doing physical work.
But I’m not transgender. I know I’m not. It never even crossed my mind that I could be until I had people try and tell me they knew my identity better than I did. I often don’t conform to stereotypical femininity, but I am still female. Not conforming to gender stereotypes doesn’t make you trans. Please don’t insist on telling me that it does, and telling me who I am or should be.
